Why Don’t New Year’s Resolutions Work

Did you know that the top 4 resolutions are, lose weight, quit smoking, get out of debt, and spend more time with your family.

Every year millions of people start out the year with good intentions only to lapse into old habits a few hours, days or weeks later. According to Psychology Today, more than half the people making New Year’s resolutions have given up after just six months. So is there any point in trying to change?

Wanting to change yourself and better yourself is beautiful and inspirational and it appears that’s also how most other people think: 50% of most people for example set themselves a new year’s resolution. That’s pretty amazing! What’s not so great is that according to the researcher Richard Wiseman 88% of all those resolutions fail. That’s millions failed resolutions and disappointed minds each and every year.

The sheer numbers of this really made me think. I wanted to understand better why we are so bad at keeping our yearly resolutions and what we can do to actually make them stick.

Everyone has a list of unhelpful beliefs that they tell themselves and that is the reason why they can’t achieve their goal. For example if a woman wishes to lose weight, she might also believe that she will get fatter as she gets older just like her mother did. These types of beliefs may be subconscious. Psychologists and scientists now agree that at best we are only 15% conscious of our choices and motivations! That means that 85% of our actions and choices are made unconsciously and are based on beliefs created from past experiences and that probably don’t have any relevance today.

So without realizing it we will be drawn to activities that support these unconscious beliefs.

Several psychological studies suggest that the decision making process contains certain patterns that will make the difference between accomplishing your New Year’s resolutions versus abandoning them. In this discussion we’re going to look at how you can exploit these findings to seriously improve your likelihood for success this year.

Self-limiting beliefs hold us back and keep us locked inside a narrow comfort zone. We might take a few tentative steps outside our comfort zone, but we quickly pop back in at the first misstep. We may know perfectly well that it can take a long time to learn a new skill but, because we are so afraid of failing and looking bad, we fail to give ourselves enough time to succeed. We don’t make the effort to practice a new skill or take risks because it is too scary outside our comfort zone.

What are Your Self-Limiting Beliefs?
Here’s a list of typical self-limiting beliefs. Are yours on this list or do you have some different ones?
• I’m not smart enough.
• I’m too old, too young, too fat, too out of shape, etc.
• I’m not outgoing enough.
• I lack relevant experience.
• I could never do that.
• I lack sufficient formal education.
• I have too many weaknesses.
• I don’t have the confidence to do that.
• I don’t have enough skills or talent.
• I don’t have what it takes to succeed.
• I’m terrible at managing my time, money, etc.
• I don’t know what I want to do with the rest of my life.
• I would fail for sure if I tried that.
• I’m really stupid when it comes to X.
• I make too many mistakes when I try something new.
• Taking risks always turns out bad for me.
• The way I have operated in the past works well enough.
• I’m comfortable doing what I’m doing now.
• Successful people are just lucky.
• I deserve better.
• I work very hard, isn’t that enough?
• I’m a failure.
• I’m a slow learner.
• Too many people are smarter than me.
• My parents didn’t do enough for me.
• My partner isn’t supportive enough.
• Other?

Luckily, there is a technique called Focused Intention Technique (FIT) that can identify the underlying sabotaging subconscious beliefs and eliminate them to allow new positive beliefs and resources to take their place. FIT is powerful, easy and safe to learn and apply – most of the time with fast results.

5 Practical Steps To Achieving Your New Year’s Resolution

Step 1

Identify your self-limiting beliefs. This may not be easy because they are so much a part of you and because it feels risky to question any characteristic that helps you feel safe. Make a list of all your self-limiting beliefs and challenge each one.

Step 2

Ask yourself how each statement is limiting you and why you believe it, what evidence there is and, most importantly, why you feel you NEED to believe the statement. After all, regardless of how you acquired any particular belief, it is YOU who are maintaining it.

Step 3

Make a plan to step outside your comfort zone, recognizing that it may take loads of practice over an extended period of time to become passably competent at your new skill.

Step 4

Learn and use the FIT 11-steps to banishing the identified self-limiting beliefs. It’s a powerful resources for creating the best 2015 possible.

Step 5

Work with a buddy who also wants to change a self-limiting belief. Support each other with regular updates and celebrations of success, even small progress steps. As I said before, it may not be easy because they are so much a part of you and because it feels risky to question any characteristic that helps you feel safe, so it might feel safer to work closely with a coach to be able to identify those very well hidden blocks.

Take the time this year to find out why your New Year’s resolutions don’t work and find out what is stopping you from creating the reality you want. FIT is a wonderful tool to get started and to turbo charge your New Year’s Resolutions to make 2015 the best year of your life.

Do something positive and uplifting which could have long term improvements on peoples’ peace of mind and wellbeing.

Invest in doing something that will really make a difference to your day, your month, your year and your life.

Have you ever failed at achieving a New Year’s Resolution? Had a resolution and achieved it? What exactly did you do?

What subconscious beliefs do you think may be getting in the way of your success and how can this process help you right now?

Thank you for reading.

From my heart to yours,

Your LIVE the LIFE you LOVE Mentor, Mindset Strategist and FIT Founder and User

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Loretta Mohl is a trained counselor, and founder of the Focused Intention Technique. She’s practiced and taught every energy modality under the sun, and delights in helping ambitious women all over the world wake-up their brilliance and unlimited potential, by teaching them how to eliminate unconscious blocks. The best selling author of Unlimited You abandoned the harsh Canadian winters for a permanent residence in Playa del Carmen, Mexico where she lives with her loving husband, Francis, practices yoga, and delights

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